When people are in a rapport, they more than likely share the following similarities:

·         They breathe together at the same rate

·         Their postures match

·         They speak at the same pace, tone and pitch

·         They use the same gestures

Most of the time, this is all done outside both parties conscious awareness, but you must learn to consciously do it.

Here’s how you can “jump start” your way into gaining rapport consciously, and short cut through all the bull:  

When you ask yourself this question you will “align” yourself with the person naturally.

What are they wearing? How would it feel to wear the same thing? What are they looking at? How might they be feeling about what they are looking at? How does it feel to have that piece of jewelry on etc.?

You’ll quickly find out that the more you do this, and the more descriptive you get with it, the easier it will be to snag a person’s attention and make them think “I don’t know why, but I really like you!”

Listen, these simple questions will enable you to develop rapid rapport with other people that otherwise would take you a long time to do using the traditional “mirror” methods.

Now Get This: as you get better at it with practice, you’ll realize that you can do this even if they person is on the other side of the planet!

I go into greater detail about this in my Almost Magical Rapport Routine. It’s one of the best pieces of work I’ve completed (besides this book). Visit the link above and get your hands on this course. You’ll want it.   

Anyway, imagine looking at a person you want to gain rapport with and saying yourself “I wonder what this person is thinking and feeling right now? Okay, I’m sitting at that table, I’m looking in this direction, I see this, I weight around this much, my hair is touching the back of my neck etcetera, etcetera, etcetera.” and watch how they instantly look at you!

This is the quickest and easiest way to gain rapport with other people.

Try it and see.

However good this method is, remember that communication works both ways. That is:

You Need To Be Selective About What You’re Thinking About At All Times…

Even thoughts create energy and it’s been shown that people can “pick up” on your thoughts about them. For example: if you’re angry, a person’s unconscious mind can detect it and may mistake you being angry with them whether your anger is towards them or not.

So it’s very important what you have running through your brain when you’re gaining rapport with others and even during the entire conversation. It only takes one wrong attitude or thought about a person that can break your rapport.

If you don’t have rapport, then they simply won’t like you, and it becomes difficult to covertly hypnotize them so it’s essential you gain and keep rapport at all times…

·         If you’re selling something, it’s far better to have “Here’s a potential new friend” running through your brain rather than “let’s get this sucker to sign.”

·         If you’re seducing others, it’s far better to have “Hmmm, here’s a person that I could get to know, let’s see if we could share something special” running through your brain rather than “Let’s go to bed together.”

·         If you’re persuading your kids to listen to you or to obey, it’s far better to have “I care about you a lot and I’m only looking to serve as a good role model” running through your brain rather than “I’m your parent and you’ll listen to me because I run the house.”

·         If you’re speaking before large groups of audiences it’s far better to have “We’re all equal here, and I’m open to you all” running through your brain rather than “I’m speaking and I’m the expert; now pay attention and listen.”

With rapport, the first signal a person will “pick up” on is your thoughts. Before you even make eye contact, it’s important you have your objective in mind. What do you intend to accomplish with communicating with them?

This is where most people make their first mistake. Then, it leads to more mistakes.

Let’s take for example the guy who wants to meet women.

Every time he approaches her, he accidentally thinks to himself:

“I’ve got to get her to go home with me”

“She probably has a boyfriend”

“I’ll probably screw it up”

“I always meet the wrong women”

Now, it’s obvious that these thoughts will come true. He’ll attract it into his life, and his body language will calibrate with those thoughts until he starts focusing on what he wants!  

But what if he thought instead things like:

“I attract women easily”

“I’m a fun guy to be around”

“I love who I am”

“She’s going to love me because I know that if I love myself first, she will too!”

Do you think he’d get better results?

Of course he would!

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Now, this can applied to any subject. What if you’re salesman? What thoughts could you start replacing right now that’ll bring you more positive results?

You see, when people don’t respond positively to you when you meet them, it’s only because of the thoughts you have running through your brain. I’m serious.

Start searching and experimenting with different thought patterns, attitudes and intentions. Or just get any subliminal CD and change it the lazy way by following a proven strategy.

Once you find the success, roll out with it to experience predictable social events – with absolute certainty.

Now supposing you have found the right thoughts and attitudes to have, now what?

The next step is to simply pace the person. Pacing is nothing more than matching a person. You can match a person’s:

·         Gestures

·         Posture

·         Tone of voice

·         Pace at which they speak

·         Body movements – even subtle ones like scratching your nose

·         Breathing

Naturally, when we share similarities with a person we will already match a person without having to be consciously aware of it. Remember? You do that by simply asking “What must the person be thinking, feeling and imagining?”

For example, if I’m talking with a person and we begin talking about a subject we both enjoy, we naturally share like interest so our postures, gestures, tone of voice etc. may already match each others without my having to be consciously aware of it.

Have you ever seen two close friends talk while they were together? Most of the time, they have the same tone and tempo of voice. They sometimes finish each other’s sentences. They often laugh the same way.

THIS IS HOW YOU KNOW WHEN TWO PEOPLE ARE IN RAPPORT!

It’s easy to do when you ask yourself “how you can be just like the person you’re talking to!”

Of course, no matter how easy this method is, we aren’t always this lucky. Sometimes it’s required of you to literally try to “mirror” a person’s unconscious movements by putting forth the conscious effort.

This requires greater skill. How could one have a conversation with a person, pay attention to them, yet at the same time remain aware of how they are talking, moving, breathing etc?

Answer: practice. It can get quite distracting to “observe” another’s breathing pattern while at the same time trying to listen to what they’re saying.

A good way to practice the mirroring strategies is to do it from a distance. Pick someone from across the room and try to breathe the same as them. Sit the same way. Move when they do.

All the while, be sure to make it seem like you’re not “copying” them by making it appear that you’re doing all this naturally.

There’s a fine line between offending someone by appearing to “mock” them. Meaning, you don’t have to match them completely right away.

With most people, you’ll find there’s about a 30 second window before a “mirror” move is required. This way, it doesn’t seem like there’s literally a mirror in front of the two of you.

Besides, you don’t want them to look at you like you’re losing your mind. If you try too hard, they’ll catch you and get offended!

For example: if a person crosses their legs, you could cross yours in 25 seconds or so instead of right away. If they change their posture from a more relaxed to more “correct” you can do the same about 15 seconds after.

Obviously, this appears to be more natural, and eventually the person’s unconscious mind will begin to think “I don’t know why, but I really like this person” as you apply this “mirror” method, too.

Listen, I’m not saying the “mirror” technique is bad. There is a use for it – and I don’t care what you’ve heard from other morns telling you differently. What I’m saying is that use this only if the first technique you learned isn’t working.

Relax, the first application works MUCH better, in my opinion, than the traditional mirroring techniques. I like simple. It’s not that I’m lazy, it’s that I want the quickest results. It’s SMART.

One last time...

Pretend What It’s Like To Be The Person You Want To Get In Rapport With!

It’s never faulted me. Start there and if anymore skills are required, try mirroring their posture. Their breathing, etc. Just don’t worry about it too much so you don’t get unnecessarily distracted.  

I wish I could make this harder for you. I could probably write an entire book on the subject of rapport, but in my experience it get’s this simple:

·         Having the right thoughts running through your brain.

·         Pretend you ARE the person you’re talking to.

·         Determine what they might be thinking or feeling,

·         And then move on with the conversation!

No kidding! It’s this easy. And if you want more, there are some "secret" rapport strategies I thought I would never share with my time tested quantum physics techniques.

In any case, learn to understand people in the start of the conversation. This alone develops rapport.